5 Wedding Myths You Should Stop Already Believing
The bride’s father walks her down the aisle. The bride wears a white dress and carries something old, new, borrowed and blue. You mustn’t see each other before the ceremony. The bride should have bridesmaids and the groom should have groomsmen of the exact same amount.
Those and a lot of other rules or traditions of the wedding day which you may feel the pressure to follow what will lead directly to anxiety and exhaustion.
The far healthier goal is to make your wedding perfect for you. Your time and energy are precious, so don’t waste it worrying about things that really won’t make much of a difference to your day and remember that the only traditions you actually need to work into your big day are those that are meaningful to you.
Here we are debunking the most common myths about the wedding day and spreading the light on the history of some traditions.
1. The bad luck curse…
Myth: If you see your partner before the ceremony, your marriage will have bad luck.
Some say the wedding day is doomed if the bride and groom see each other before walking down the aisle. We are officially debunking this one!
An old myth and superstition and there is no reason to believe this. If you will feel calmer to meet your love before the big “I do” moment that is absolutely ok. Some couples choose to meet up and have portrait sessions before the ceremony. However, many still choose to remain unseen before the ceremony in order to save that special moment of seeing each other for the actual wedding.
History: This superstition dates back to the time of arranged marriages when people believed that if the couple saw each other before the ceremony, it would give them a chance to change their minds about the wedding.
2. Wearing a Veil
Myth: The bride is supposed to wear a veil because she is especially vulnerable to evil spirits.
History: This custom originated in Rome when a bride would wear a veil down the aisle to disguise herself from evil spirits who were jealous of her happiness.
Bridesmaids originally wore similar dresses to the bride to outsmart evil spirits. That way, they wouldn’t know which woman in the group was getting married.
Also, part of the reason why the bride wore a veil down the aisle was to prevent the groom from knowing what she looked like until the very last second when it’s too late to back out! Amazing, agree?!
3. Mismatched amount of bridesmaids and groomsmen
Myth: You must have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.
The wedding party consists of you and your partner’s closest circle of friends and family. It is common that you would each select the exact same number of people to serve in the bridal party.
However, this is sometimes not the case and we are here to calm you that you don’t have to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. There are plenty of ways to arrange an odd number in your wedding party for the ceremony and photos.
So when choosing your closest for that day always consider those who you truly want to be a part of your big day.
History: When attending a Roman wedding, it was common to spot 10 maidens dressed identically to the bride – decorations for evil spirits that might try to harm her or for rejected exes who might want to throw her over their shoulder.
As far as bridesmaid duty, in early Roman times, bridesmaids would line up to form somewhat of a protective shield while walking the bride to the groom’s village. The group of women who were similarly dressed was expected to protect the bride. So you can be glad that today the duty of bridesmaids is to smile and carry the bouquet!
What about the best man?
History: Obviously, runaway bride is not something new today so the best man’s former duty was to make sure the bride didn’t escape during the ceremony. Sometimes he was even asked to kidnap her! Flattering, yeah? When the parents didn’t approve of the marriage, the best man was tasked to help the groom to take her away regardless of how her father felt.
Oh, and the best man wasn’t just picked because he was the groom’s best friend or brother. The term “best” was added to the title because that person had to be the strongest and most capable when it came to using a sword or weapon to fight off enemies and attackers during the ceremony.
Do you still think that the job of remembering to bring the wedding rings is hard?
4. The bride is supposed to throw a bouquet and the one who catches is the next to marry
Myth: At many modern weddings the bride tosses her bouquet to the bridesmaids. It is believed that the unmarried woman who catches the bouquet will be the next to marry. It’s a fun ritual, but many couples have chosen not to include it because guests could be injured easily and it might embarrass the single women to participate.
If you have doubts about including this tradition on your wedding day, you consider an anniversary dance instead which honors the longest-married couple by presenting them with the bouquet. How it works: Ask your married couples to join you on the dance floor as a slow song plays. Throughout the song, your celebration host will ask guests to sit down as their length of the marriage is called out.
History: The story behind this tradition is dirty. In medieval times, it was considered lucky to get a fragment of the bride’s clothing, so guests would follow the newlywed couple into their wedding chamber after the ceremony and stand around the bed, trying to rip pieces of the bride’s gown right off her body. Because dresses were often torn apart, brides searched for alternatives to preserve their gowns and began throwing their bouquets to distract guests while they made their getaway. When the bride and groom made it safely into their wedding chamber, the groom would then open the door and toss the bride’s garter to people waiting outside as a way of saying that he was about to “seal the deal.”
5. Marry in May and ruin your
Myth: Don’t get married in May or your life will be full of struggles.
History: The famous marriage rhyme of yore warns against weddings in the fifth month of the year:
“Marry in the month of May,
and you’ll surely rue the day.”
Or here is another one:
“Married when bees over May blossoms flit,
Strangers around your board will sit.”
But tell it to the happiest brides who get married in this gorgeous spring month!
Also, there is the English tradition that Wednesday is considered the ‘best day’ to marry, Monday symbolizes wealth and Tuesday is for health. Saturday is the unluckiest wedding day, according to English folklore.
But it is very silly as it’s the most popular day of the week to marry all around the world!